Helping a Friend

The Balance of Support

When someone you care about is struggling with mental health challenges, your instinct might be to fix everything. But sustainable support isn't about becoming their therapist—it's about being present, setting boundaries, and knowing when to encourage professional help.

What to Say (And What Not to Say)

Helpful responses validate feelings without minimizing or trying to solve everything immediately:

• Say: "I'm here for you. This sounds really difficult."
• Avoid: "Everything happens for a reason" or "Just think positive!"
• Say: "Have you thought about talking to a professional?"
• Avoid: "You should just..." or "I know exactly how you feel."

Setting Healthy Boundaries

Supporting a friend doesn't mean sacrificing your own mental health. It's okay to:

• Say "I can't talk right now, but let's schedule time tomorrow"
• Redirect crisis situations to professionals or hotlines
• Take breaks when you feel emotionally drained
• Acknowledge you're not equipped to handle certain situations

When to Encourage Professional Help

If your friend shows signs of serious distress—such as talking about self-harm, withdrawing completely, or experiencing severe mood changes—gently encourage them to seek professional support. You can offer to help them find resources or accompany them to appointments.

Practical Ways to Support

• Check in regularly with simple texts: "Thinking of you today"
• Offer specific help: "Can I bring you dinner on Tuesday?"
• Do activities together that don't require heavy conversation
• Share mental health resources without being pushy
• Celebrate small victories and progress